Mind Adventures 3 (NLP): Flies over my Head

Day 3 of Neurolinguistic Programming GradDip Part 2, Unit on Advanced Modelling
Thoughts and insights
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I again had the chance to be a demonstration client for Penny Tomkins and James Lawley.

This time what I would like to have happen is  “To be in a resourceful state in the context when I get a response of resistance, objection or when I simply get impatient or annoyed from the response that I get.”

“What kind of resourceful state?”

It’s the kind of state where I feel centred in a deep way… I feel a sense of cheekiness, playfulness, alertness and being present in the moment.

“Anything else about ‘resourceful state’?”

It comes from the back, through me, moving forward.

“Where is ‘centred’ coming from?”

I pointed to my chest.

“How do you know when you’re present in the moment?”

I feel brightness, lightness, my peripheral vision wide open.

“Where is ‘cheeky and playful’ coming from”

And this is where I laughed… I pinched my cheeks because that is where it felt like cheekiness and playfulness is coming from, surprise, suprise!

“When there is resistance, what happens?”

I feel I shut down. I feel a blockage here  (pointing to my throat)

“What would you like to have happen?”

I want flow — not blockage. To have that flow through me, a sense of openness.

Note that there is a recurring representation, a map of my inner world from my previous posting.

“When you have flow, what happens to resistance?”

It doesn’t matter. It just passes and gets diffused into the air.

I further explored my inner world in relation to what I want to have happen. The questions from Penny and James were like prompters for my unconscious mind to freely go where it chooses to in this context. I found that there are there are two types of people involved in regards to what I want to have happen:  one,  people I already have a history with and prefer not to deal with. I don’t want to spend energy with them. I already have a pre-judgement. Two, new people I just meet whose objections may come as a surprise.

The prejudgement is like a fly. The fly hovers over my head. It is annoying. It even buzzes. It just goes around and around, on top of my head. I feel it, but I don’t see it. The fly wants my attention, but I do not want to pay attention to it. It says “Listen to me”. It wants me to stop.

I feel the blockage in my throat as I think about the buzzing.

Eventually I looked up, I stuck my tongue out at the fly above my head. I tlooked at me, laughs and then leaves. I’m happy. Blockage clears, opens up. I feel warm — on my cheeks! My throat relaxes. My chest expands, flow starts.

As for the second type of people who surprise me, I realised that all I need is to take a deep breath to relax my throat, for the flow to happen. It gives me a moment to compose myself. It is the kind of moment where my peripheral vision opens up, allows flow to happen and my chest expands.